Discomfort at the success of others is caused by many factors, and the main cause is Social Comparison.
Social Comparison can be motivating and stimulating, but it is also a leading cause of stress or conflict. The following steps will help you free your mind effectively.
1. THINK ABOUT YOUR OWN SUCCESS When you feel self-conscious, remind yourself of your own strengths. And if you’re feeling like you are better than them, remind yourself of the good side of the other person and the special things they bring to you. This also helps you focus on your own life, not anyone else’s.
2. UNDERSTAND THE SUCCESS OF OTHERS
Behind the success, whether it is effort or luck, it is also the result of the efforts of others. Remember that if you try your best and put your heart into your goals, you will also achieve something for yourself instead of being self-deprecating or uncomfortable.
3. AVOID PEOPLE WHO LIKE TO COMPARISON
Sometimes you don’t care about someone’s success, this does not mean that the people around you are also indifferent to it. If there are your friend who constantly evaluate and compare, try limiting contact with them.
4. FIND PARTNER
It’s a healthier environment for competition if you’re in a circle with one or more friends. Because that helps limit feelings of discomfort. Morever, you tend to bless if the successful person is one of your close friends. For example, if you want to go on a diet, find like-minded people and make friends then strive together.